#4 – Learning to Fly

When I was seventeen, I was sexually assaulted. I told no one until I was nineteen. I can still count on my fingers the people who know. Or rather, the people that I told. My story was shared without my consent, and my side has never been heard save for those designated a finger.

O School (website)

an amazing education resource (website) about sex, sexuality an relationships, mental health etc.

#3- Charting 3 years of healing and acceptance

My healing journey has not been like climbing a mountain, but more like traversing a mountain range. New challenges regularly present themselves, old ones are overcome but may periodically resurface. I am nowhere near the end – if there is one – of my healing. Nonetheless, I have come far in building a loving and forgiving relationship to myself.

Davida – Power & Resilience Playlist

This is a selection of songs I listen to when I’m in need of some woman empowerment, when I’m in a bit of a ‘f*** you, men’ mood (sorry men). Most of these songs make me feel strong and independent, although a few are a little more lowkey or emotionally piercing, like ‘bruises’ or ‘I carried this for years’.

Emjoy – best sexual wellbeing app for womxn EVER!

I LOVE this app. I used to think I needed a partner, or at least a second person, to be able to start exploring my sexuality again. I realised not too long ago, however, that this was utter rubbish! I don’t need to wait around for someone to empower me sexually…

Trauma Queen Podcast

This podcast is hosted by Jimanekia Eborn, a Queer Media Consultant, Sex Educator and Sexual Assault and Trauma Expert. Listening to it helped me realise that I’m not alone in my experiences

Normal People

Normal People showed sex could be intimate and personal, that there was no need to be afraid of revealing your vulnerabilities because people will love you no matter what.

Mooncup- menstrual cup

I love using the mooncup because it has helped me reconnect with my body – especially a part of my body which is highly connected with sexuality and which is particular laden with complex emotions following sexual assault.