#4 – Learning to Fly

When I was seventeen, I was sexually assaulted. I told no one until I was nineteen. I can still count on my fingers the people who know. Or rather, the people that I told. My story was shared without my consent, and my side has never been heard save for those designated a finger.

#3- Charting 3 years of healing and acceptance

My healing journey has not been like climbing a mountain, but more like traversing a mountain range. New challenges regularly present themselves, old ones are overcome but may periodically resurface. I am nowhere near the end – if there is one – of my healing. Nonetheless, I have come far in building a loving and forgiving relationship to myself.

Emjoy – best sexual wellbeing app for womxn EVER!

I LOVE this app. I used to think I needed a partner, or at least a second person, to be able to start exploring my sexuality again. I realised not too long ago, however, that this was utter rubbish! I don’t need to wait around for someone to empower me sexually…

#2- Empathy for Who I Was

Once I recognised the person of those hours as the hurt and confused and scared person they were, I could acknowledge the hurt and confused and scared person I had continued to be since. Learning to have empathy for myself has been the most important step in my healing process.

Mooncup- menstrual cup

I love using the mooncup because it has helped me reconnect with my body – especially a part of my body which is highly connected with sexuality and which is particular laden with complex emotions following sexual assault.