Bliss Club: Sex Tips for Creative Lovers by June Pla

it has helped me build confidence in my sexual self. It also reinforces the general truth that everyone is different and likes different things. This is important as a survivor I often feel a burden of being ‘different’ when it comes to sexual activities. Normalising this helps relieve that burden.

Trauma and Recovery by Judith Hermann

My therapist recommended this book to me. (…) It felt a little more removed from my direct experience, whilst at the same time teaching me a lot about trauma, which I found helpful.

All About Love – bell hooks

This book opened my eyes to the ways in which patriarchy shapes the way we relate to one another romantically, in non-romantic settings and sexually. It helped me articulate what is important to me in a relationship, what commitment, respect and communication look like to me.

Calm app – self-care, meditation, sleep

I find it incredibly grounding and nurturing, especially during times when I feel very internally destabilised. It has helped me practice self-forgiveness, letting go, and made my inner voice much less critical of myself.

Playlist- Matthew’s Songs that Helped Me Heal

I’ve always been one to ‘wallow’ with the music I choose, so I tend to opt for lyrics that are maybe slightly more ‘raw’ or feel a bit too ‘real.’ It is my hope however that if these songs helped me to heal, they might also help someone else.

Discovering Your Worthiness – Guided Meditation

This meditation does not specifically target trauma and so can be a wonderful and hopefully trigger-free resource that can be used by anyone. Lisa Nichols’ guided meditation encourages you to try and let go of those feelings weighing you down…

Yoga for Post Traumatic Stress

This and similar yoga videos inspired me to take care of my body and mental health and connect my mind to my body when I felt incredibly divorced from my physical form and control over my physical form.